Well here's a wild thought. You are on this planet for a reason. You may not know completely why you are here but you probably have a sneeky feeling that you are here for some higher purpose. Well, you may be right. Some spiritual teachers suggest that we are here to learn, grow and have fun in the process. That's right you can have fun stretching into the new. Well, what is stopping you right now having a little fun? Any answer other than you is incorrect. Today, how about stretching a little bit more and having a tinsy winsy bit more fun? You never know what might happen!
This is what a friend wrote to me in reply: "Just felt the need to check in with something here. I admit that my antennae are supersensitive. This bit "Well, what is stopping you right now having a little fun? Any answer other than you is incorrect" strikes a chord with me. Smacks of blame, I have to say. And for those of us who've grown up being blamed, it fits in there very snugly - a big hook there for us. Yes, it is our responsibility to work on it so we sail into having fun and realize we darn well deserve it. If we don't take the responsibility to do the work, then we won't reach fun. How, though to convince people to do the work? Not by blaming, I would say."
This is what I said back: "Blame is one great way we will seek to avoid taking responsibility for our reality. Blame seeks to find fault and is ultimately disempowering. Responsibility is about owning one's own beliefs, thinking, feelings, and choices and looking at what is working well and what is not working at all. People who do a lot of self-blame will seek to avoid responsibility because there will seem very little distinction between blame and responsibility. In my experience responsibility is the one tried and tested way to true freedom."